This month, I turned 31. To put it mildly, it’s been a very interesting year so far. I haven’t been big on celebrating my birthday for a long time now. For me, ideal birthdays are just lazy days when I get to sleep longer, drink stronger coffee, go out for a simple brunch or a very late lunch, read a book and call it a day. In the past, I would have opened a favorite bottle of wine or a single malt. This year, I have been actively cutting out alcohol.
I am starting to feel the age in my body. I have a few grays now – those rogue, wiry ones which don’t settle down even when you brush them. My body doesn’t recover and bounce back as it did in my 20s. On the bright side, I know what I want and like more clearly. I know what I care about and what I couldn’t care less about. Emotionally, I am not starting to feel old yet. May be that will kick in at 35? But, when I meet friends or cousins in their early 20s, it feels like I belong to a different era.
A few times every year (Birthdays, Anniversaries, Holidays), the husband and I gift each other things that the other one really wants. My desire to NOT celebrate my birthday has never deterred my husband from giving me gifts.
We have known each other for about 7 years and had been married for almost 4 of them. The older we get, the more personal and specific gifting gets. Anniversaries are all about travel and experiences. Birthday’s are about reading each other’s mind (a.k.a checking out universal amazon wishlists)
But this year, he outdid himself. Books and Beauty can go together! One doesn’t make the other redundant or frivolous. He actually went into Sephora and chose two bottles of perfume that he thought I’d love. He ordered the biggest bottle of SK-II facial essence. It was nice to know that he actually was paying attention when I keep gushing about it (He does listen, then!!?!) To add to that, he even remembered to give the Sephora lady my phone number so that they could add the purchases to my VIB points. I knew he was a keeper.
I am working my way through the books. The perfumes couldn’t have come at a better time, as I am all out of my current collection. I wouldn’t have splurged so fast on SK-II. One of the bloggers commented that Missha was a ‘dupe’ for SK-II at a much lower cost. But, for now, I am going to use this bottle. I have never used SK-II masks (too expensive!!). I think I will use one before my anniversary dinner, this month. Let us see how that goes.
Question: Do you ever gently ‘direct’ your partner or significant other to get you what you would like for your birthday or anniversary or Holidays? Were you or are you more free with your parents? I sure was, asking them for specific books, an extra clothes allowance for a particular year or movie tickets for my friends and me etc (as a teenager). For those of you who are single and enjoying it, how do splurge on yourself, if you do? I remember my early 20s when I was single. I used to make it a ‘shopping and dinner day’ with my younger sister or girlfriends.