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Birthday Time

This month, I turned 31.  To put it mildly, it’s been a very interesting year so far. I haven’t been big on celebrating my birthday for a long time now. For me, ideal birthdays are just lazy days when I get to sleep longer, drink stronger coffee, go out for a simple brunch or a very late lunch, read a book and call it a day. In the past, I would have opened a favorite bottle of wine or a single malt. This year, I have been actively cutting out alcohol.

I am starting to feel the age in my body.  I have a few grays now – those rogue, wiry ones which don’t settle down even when you brush them. My body doesn’t recover and bounce back as it did in my 20s. On the bright side, I know what I want and like more clearly. I know what I care about and what I couldn’t care less about. Emotionally, I am not starting to feel old yet. May be that will kick in at 35? But, when I meet friends or cousins in their early 20s, it feels like I belong to a different era.

A few times every year (Birthdays, Anniversaries, Holidays), the husband and I gift each other things that the other one really wants. My desire to NOT celebrate my birthday has never deterred my husband from giving me gifts.

We have known each other for about 7 years and had been married for almost 4 of them. The older we get, the more personal and specific gifting gets. Anniversaries are all about travel and experiences. Birthday’s are about reading each other’s mind (a.k.a checking out universal amazon wishlists)

Birthday Gifts

But this year, he outdid himself. Books and Beauty can go together! One doesn’t make the other redundant or frivolous. He actually went into Sephora and chose two bottles of  perfume that he thought I’d love. He ordered the biggest bottle of SK-II facial essence. It was nice to know that he actually was paying attention when I keep gushing about it (He does listen, then!!?!) To add to that, he even remembered to give the Sephora lady my phone number so that they could add the purchases to my VIB points. I knew he was a keeper.

I am working my way through the books. The perfumes couldn’t have come at a better time, as I am all out of my current collection. I wouldn’t have splurged so fast on SK-II. One of the bloggers commented that Missha was a ‘dupe’ for SK-II at a much lower cost. But, for now, I am going to use this bottle. I have never used SK-II masks (too expensive!!). I think I will use one before my anniversary dinner, this month. Let us see how that goes.

Question: Do you ever gently ‘direct’ your partner or significant other to get you what you would like for your birthday or anniversary or Holidays? Were you or are you more free with your parents? I sure was, asking them for specific books, an extra clothes allowance for a particular year or movie tickets for my friends and me etc (as a teenager). For those of you who are single and enjoying it, how do splurge on yourself, if you do? I remember my early 20s when I was single. I used to make it a ‘shopping and dinner day’ with my younger sister or girlfriends.

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  1. Happy belated birthday! You got some lovely gifts.
    With one of my groups of friends, in the past we straight up asked each other what we wanted and we’d buy exactly that, haha. But nowadays we decided to just do away with the obligation of birthday gifts.
    I don’t really splurge on myself… okay I guess things like daily coffees etc already count!

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    May 21, 2017
    • SA. #

      Thank you for the wishes Jane! That is perfect to tell friends what one wants! The number of people that I give birthday gifts is very small (my younger sister, my husband, very close friends). The rest of the folks get gift cards or straight up cash (younger nephews and nieces especially).

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      May 23, 2017
  2. Belated birthday greetings! Looks like you had a wonderful birthday, plus it was a weekend too. πŸ™‚

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    May 25, 2017
    • Lakshmi #

      My husband and I have been together many years now. In the early days, we gifted each other books, music, experiences, etc. But neither of us is particularly attached to that idea, so we dispensed with it soon enough. These days, we go seek out individually what charms us, and share it with the other.

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      May 25, 2017
      • SA. #

        That is such a beautiful thing – to have arrived at point in life that you don’t particularly feel the need to gift anything.

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        May 26, 2017
  3. Happy birthday & anniversary! And how sweet about your hubs and the VIB pts, a keeper indeed! πŸ˜‰ It’s a blessing to have someone in your life that listens and understands you. If you ever end up trying the Missha one, let us know! Also how is the dermatologist Retin working?

    I despise the day of my bday in my personal life. Last year I had to escape to the mother ship (Rick Owens store) just to keep from murdering someone or myself. In the past, coworkers acknowledge it, and at times they have been too unexpectedly generous. As far as splurging on myself, in that sense everyday is my bday. If I want something, and I can afford it, I will get my hands on it regardless of what day of the year is. In general, I’m not much for celebration or ceremony.

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    May 27, 2017
    • SA. #

      Thank you PPP. Eid Mubarak to you!! I hope you are have a good time traveling.
      I will definitely try out Missha and share my thoughts. The Retin is working slowly and I am building my resistance. I think I will be ready to share more details in a month.

      Oh my!! I am so sorry to hear that! I really like that you have a favorite store!! I wonder if I’ll ever find one like that for myself. About splurging, I am like you. I don’t particularly buy new things for myself on the birthday, just whenever I actually like them and can afford to spend.

      I am not much into cake and candles. I don’t know why, but birthday cakes, even from the best bakeries turn out disappointing. I’d rather prefer a good piece of non-birthday cake if I want to indulge. I digress! I just prefer a lazy day without any chores.

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      May 28, 2017
      • Pret a Porter P #

        The RO was a rare excursion. It is 2 hrs away from me. My favorite store is any grocery stores, Target, or ulta.

        I read on tea with md blog about mixing retinoid with moisturizer to help with irritation. When I started it made my face crazy itchy and found that trick to help.

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        May 29, 2017
      • SA. #

        I love how you put Ulta right up there with grocery stores.. lol! I see how beauty aficionados have their basics grouped πŸ™‚
        Thank you for that tip. I will start doing that from now.

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        May 31, 2017
  4. Happy birthday and thank you for the interesting blog read. You are a baby, 31 is just the beginning of adulthood.πŸ˜„

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    June 1, 2017
    • SA. #

      Thank you Lady Sarah! I haven’t been called a baby in a while now. Believe me when I say that I cherish you calling me one πŸ™‚

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      June 3, 2017
  5. I am totally late to the party, but happy birthday!
    This is so sweet of your husband. I’m too surprised when I find out mine was actually listening to me all the time I was talking about style/beauty/etc., lol. πŸ˜€ Sometimes I directly tell him what I to buy but mainly not since I’d spend some time with him off travelling rather than receiving material gifts but it’s quite hard with his schedule. With my best friends, we don’t give each other gifts or do it frequently during the year, when travelling abroad and so. The best thing I have received was first ever Christmas present from my current boyfriend, a wooden fountain pen hand made by his friend who gradually made living from that. I write everyday by hand a lot and it is such useful and beautiful piece of art and craft.

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    June 10, 2017
    • SA. #

      Thank you for the wishes Zia! I know!! Our husbands tend to surprise us by paying attention to our ‘frivolous discussions’. That fountain pen sounds marvelous!! What better thing to gift than something that your loved one will use every day. I understand what you mean by traveling. My husband keeps a very busy schedule. We have been postponing our Euro trip for the last 3 years.

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      June 14, 2017

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